Stop Wasting Time With Your Ego

As a CEO, Director, Administrator, boss, head honcho, or whatever your title, there are certain things that you might do at meetings that are, well, inappropriate!

No, I am not talking about the company Christmas party. Sometimes the CEO position can wreak havoc on our emotions and cause us to act rather oddly.

Take for example the boss that puts his ego ahead of the organization, or the employees. This is a strict taboo. A boss must carefully focus on getting the job done. When a coast guard swimmer is deployed into hurricane force winds to save an overboard crew, she introduces herself and then adheres to life saving procedures as her only emotional focus. Why should you be any different when leading a meeting?

Here are a few tips about changing your behavior as a Time-Wasting CEO:

  1. Respect everyone's time - and stay to the meeting time promised to them.
  2. Show understanding, empathy and emotion in a balanced way - don't go overboard. I know Directors who make themselves cry to seem empathetic to their customers and employees’ needs. Get over it – be yourself!
  3. Adhere to a strict structure whether you are collaborating or giving orders:
      • What's up - what's going on here and what brought us to this meeting?
      • What's so - why are we really here and what can we all get out of it?
      • What are the best possibilities for moving into action?
      • What are our next steps?
      • Get out your calendar with everyone else and make it happen! Don’t become that boss that wastes everyone's time.
  4. When you do get into the swamp with your emotional reactions then take some quiet time, and see the positive. Look at all these people around you - people who want to help you - let them help you. I have seen CEOs and Executive Directors who get angry at their client-volunteers for wanting to create something different than their vision or if they think they don't "like" them. These bosses waste everyone's time and energy by letting their ego hinder progress. They filibuster, move to more meetings, and then complain about their status quo. Instead they should state their case, show the path, and give actionable items. Then ask, “Is everyone committed to this vision?” If not, then go back to What’s So? Because you will need to figure out what is holding people back. People are hungry for strong and definitive leadership. 
  5. Observe your true motivations. Are you trying to somehow make yourself feel safer, or more important? Are you forcing the point on your employees, not for the company’s benefit and business strategy, but instead for your own edification?

These kinds of personal, emotional issues are hard to see in oneself, but reveal themselves to others easily. If you think this might be you, it could be time to talk to a close friend about it.

After all, the test of a true leader, is to face the truth, right?

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